Editor’s note: This story is a revised version of its original piece.
If you were like me, moving to school was incredibly nerve-racking. I had lived in the same town and had the same friends my entire life, so the idea of making new friends freaked me out.
Like most girls, I had hoped my freshman year roommate would be my best friend forever, but I couldn’t have been more wrong. Now a lot of people, including my own parents, have bad roommate stories, and here is mine.
I met my roommate on Facebook. We talked and I thought she was perfect. From the things we talked about I thought we were very similar. Then, we met in person and she was awesome. We did everything together. Then time passed and she started to do plenty of things that bugged me.
I began to realize that we were exact opposites. I went home for winter break and did not want to go back to school whatsoever because I couldn’t stand living with her.
My entire freshman year was a nightmare because I lived with someone I hated. No one should ever experience what I went through, so here are a few tips for coping with a bad roommate:
Tip #1: Breath
Not everyone will end up with a roommate they like during their freshman year. Take a deep breath, go for a walk and remember it is not the end of the world. Making friends at college can be tough, and it is okay if you and your roommate are not friends; more people will come along.
Tip #2: Reevaluate the situation and talk it out
Sometimes the situation can be all in your head, and maybe talking it out with your roommate is exactly what you need. If you are having a problem, and you think it can be resolved with a conversation, take it upon yourself to start that conversation.
Tip #3: Talk to your RA
Some may think that going to talk to your RA is a form of “tattling,” but trust me, it’s not. It is their job to help make sure your living arrangements are comfortable, so don’t be afraid to talk to them and tell them what is going on.
Tip #4: Keep others outside of the situation
Don’t talk to just anybody about your situation; you could end up saying something really bad to the wrong person, and it could get back to your roommate. That would make the situation 10 times worse. You might think you are venting, but others could think you are gossiping. Just don’t do it.
Tip #5: Request a new roommate
If things escalate and get worse, request a new roommate. I did this and trust me, life was so much better.
No one should ever be uncomfortable in their own room, and no one should ever live with someone they don’t like. I hope you don’t end up with a bad roommate, but if you do, these tips are here to help.
College is meant to be an amazing experience. Don’t let one person ruin it for you!